Not Everyone Deserves a Recurring Role in Our Story

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Did you block your ex, yet? You were supposed to do it before reading. Sigh…this isn’t going to be the world’s shortest article after all, is it? OK. I am here for it. Let’s get into it.

Life is a series of endings and beginnings. Life is not supposed to be lived in limbo. Have you read Dante’s 7 Circles of Hell? No? I’ll save you the trouble. Limbo is a place in hell. Staying in touch with someone who hurt, disappointed, or pissed you off is limbo, and it’s a downward spiral to hell.

Not convinced? I don’t blame you. It’s hard to cut someone off from your life. It feels so final. Shouldn’t you forgive? Sure, but this isn’t about forgiveness. This is about self-preservation and healing. …


Great thoughts! I found this valuable for so many of us freelancers. Thank you Trudy!


Take Back Your Power Girl

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Well, well, well…welcome to the F*ck You Forties, or if you aren’t there yet, sit back and take notes. Forty is a wild ride, and honestly, it should be the best decade of your life. Maybe you aren’t feeling it. Maybe you’re tired..girl, I am, too. Maybe you are looking at a life that didn’t turn out as you expected…raises hand-right here lady. Maybe you’re a nosy man…fine-maybe you’ll learn something.

This dance ain’t for everyone…only the sexy people. The forty’s are a time when women can embrace and take back their power. Our kids are older and more independent…


Toxic People will Destroy You if You Don’t Make an Exit Plan

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If you have listened to Katy Perry’s song, “Hot and Cold,” you understand the concept of a toxic relationship. A toxic relationship goes through cycles of intense attraction and happiness followed by a period of disinterest, detachment, and in the worst instances emotional or physical abuse.

Toxic relationships happen for a variety of reasons, but generally, it’s when one partner desires control over the other partner in the relationship. And guess what? This doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship. Friendships, workplace acquaintances, and even family members can be toxic partners.

Most people understand signs of physical abuse, but the…


I am so honored and excited. I am working on several articles to inspire and dare I say..Illuminate others? Thank you very much Dr. Yildiz.


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I have a secret. Well, several actually, but one confession at a time. I am terrified of vulnerability. It has never really gone well for me. The last time, I was vulnerable-it ended badly. The worst way actually-there wasn’t even an ending or discussion-just nothing. After almost two years-nothing.

Fortunately, over the years, I have learned a thing or two. Mainly from writers like Natasha Adamo and Brene Brown. Both in their way have shown me that my ability to be vulnerable isn’t the problem. It’s my greatest strength. …


Great article and so important. Backyard breeders are the worst! Your heart was in the right place in trying to rescuse Harley. I read this and it made me so appreciate our sweet lab who is napping at my feet.


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“Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh.”

- Henry David Thoreau

People who say they live with no regrets are either liars or sociopaths. It’s impossible to navigate this world without causing harm to others-intentionally or unintentionally. Likewise, it’s impossible to navigate this world and not be harmed. Regret doesn’t mean you wish your life was different, and it doesn’t mean you are sorry for any outcomes. …


OK. Loved. You have to listen to the Sinisterhood Podcast--particularly the Mothman episode. But the whole podcast will give you inspiration. Your writing was tight but still full of imagery. I can't wait to read more!

Jennifer Cross

Writer. Lagree Coach. Yogi. Writing to inspire, connect and empower people to live their most authentic lives.

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